I’ve achieved a lot by obsessing over my future, romanticizing about a dream life with everything I need. But, I wonder… while these obsessions have kept my end goal in mind at every moment, motivating me, are they preventing me from being happy? To be happy is to enjoy the moment, and to remember a joyous past, but if all you do is obsess over a future that can’t be set in stone, am setting myself up for unhappiness?
When it comes to overcoming obstacles in life, acceptance and being present in the moment are key. If you dwell on the past, it will eat you up, and the future is yet to be determined, so it’s unhelpful in any evaluation of self.
So, to overcome something difficult that has happened to you, you must drowned yourself in the moment until you’ve built a different future, a different now. In continual planning for the what’s next, you block out your ‘now’, and overcoming obstacles - one of the most important parts of life for building personal strength - becomes difficult and painful to achieve. It can stop you in your tracks, requiring that your brain temporarily reset they way it thinks, so that you can focus on the moment, be present, and repurpose the meaning of things in your life.
If we more continually focused on the moment, and compartmentalized our planning for the future, we could better prepare ourselves for life’s eminent road blocks. We could more easily accept a curve ball, and we could
maintain momentum even through the most difficult times. For we are only truly unhappy when we stop; when we cease to produce, cease to move forward, cease to progress, cease to learn.
A big part of happiness is being present in the moment. Create memories and experiences; don’t only plan for them. Live in the ‘now’ and stop worrying about a time that hasn’t come, that we cannot predict. We are only alive at this moment.